Growing up I used to hear people say "If it ain't broke don't fix it," but what happens if something is broken and it needs to be fix? Do you then point out the problem? Or do you allow others to figure it out for themselves? Well let me tell you a story about what happens in both scenarios. 

Let's say your friend comes to you for advice and you give them your honest opinion. Well either one or two things will happen: 1. Your friend will consider everything you said


2. Your friend will say you're jealous and discontinue your friendship.

I guess in some of our minds we want someone to tell us what we want to hear, but that's not necessarily what's going to help you.We can then be too stubborn and it will cost us tremenduosly. In Matthew 18:15-16 it reads "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you both alone. If he listens to you, you have gain a brother. But if he doesn't take two others along side with you and that every charge maybe establish by the evidence of two or three witness. Now as good as that sound it's not going to go over smoothly when you're talking to someone with a carnal mind. Most times what's broken have been uprooted in a person for  years before that can realize it's an issue. Rather than taken on matters yourself I would suggest you find a mutual respectable friend to assist with things that are broken beyond your control. 

It's easier for us shy away or hide what's broken because in our minds we're always right. But when you desire to build something everlasting you have to fix the problem. Putting a band-aid over a permanent injury or scar tissue will not heal the problem. So if you're in this position of establishing a friendship or relationship, be open to suggestions. Always look at the ultimate goal and use discretion when approaching any issues. Yet prepare yourself for the reaction and know in the end you've done all you can to help fix a problem. We all have a choice to make and in that choice we have to face a consequence.

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